Let's Talk About Sex!

This week on The Recap, we’re diving deep into the sheets—safely, of course. From PrEP to positions, condoms to kinks, we’re talking all things sex, safety, and the wild stories in between. Whether you’re team top, bottom, verse, side or “it depends on the vibe,” we’ve got you covered (literally).

Let’s be real: the only thing hotter than good sex is responsible sex. So tune in and learn how to protect your peace and your privates. Because if you stay ready, baby ..... you ain’t gotta PrEP

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Transcript

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Welcome back to the recap. My name is Carl. My name is Mario. I'm back. Welcome back, Mario. Glad to be back. We love it when you're here. We hate it when you're away. But I hear that you were holding it down by yourself. Yes. We talked about Black representation in films and TV, and it was pretty cool, you know? Gave them the ones and twos, expressed my love for Noah's Ark. What a classic. Even... Well, I've reserved my comments on that for a different episode when we can re-talk about that, but... Yeah, I have a lot of thoughts on those arcs, but I do think it was an important, impactful show. And I don't think it gets the credit that it deserves. Agreed, agreed. How was your weekend? It was cool. So the reason I was gone was because I got in a car accident. So that wasn't great. And then, you know, I had to pay the man to get my car back. But... I'm fine. I'm not hurt. So, and I'm, I was blessed enough to be able to pay it. So everything's awesome. Good. Good. Was he cute? Uh, so it wasn't with a person. It was, it was with fucked up DC streets. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So I guess it was, I've had an accident with Jesus. Okay. Okay. Jesus tried to take you home.

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He took the wheel and took it away. But I'm glad you're okay. And I'm happy everything worked out because that is a pain in the ass, I know. Yeah, but how was your weekend? It was pretty good. Work has been smooth. Only think about the positives, trying to drown out the negative stuff and just keep going. I had brunch this weekend with... One of my friends and also had a little day drinking situation back at my place. So it was a lot of fun, a lot of drinks and karaoke, loud music. My neighbors hate me. It's okay. What's the first song you sang? The first song I sang was something from Dreamgirls. I think I sang I Am Changing. Ooh. Yeah. Okay. I guess... I gave everybody something to think about that night beach. I was blowing the vocals out. Okay. Your neighbor was about to change too. Okay. I know. It's like, what the fuck is going on over there? Yeah, definitely a good time. All right. So today's topic, we're going to talk about SCX. Just a little bit of sex. Sexy. The ins, the outs, literally. How to be safe. Knowing your role. You know, getting back to the basics. And how to have fun. Yeah. How to have fun. Just, you know. Yeah. Be nasty. So I'm excited for later when we read some of the viewer stories. Cause y'all nasty. Okay. Nasty is the best way possible. Yes. I love it. We enjoy it. Please. I sound freaky. Let me, you know, let me reel it in. The Jezebel spirit. I am a sinner. But like we do on every show, we're going to start out with a game. So we're going to play questions. So I have three questions and we both can just answer both of these questions. I mean, all three of these questions. So first question, what's the strangest place you've had sex? The strangest place I've had sex? You know what's so funny? I'm really... I'm really weird and I don't like to have sex in like random places. So I really have not had a crazy experience or a strange place that I've had sex. It's mostly been inside of my place or my partner's place. Okay. That's fair enough. I want to be adventurous though, but I'm just like, Even like, I would love to just go to Home Depot, bitch. Home Depot? And go in the bathroom. So you've been thinking about this. I have. I want to be adventurous, you know, but when I get, I'm just, I can't do it. Ah, okay. Well, I'll watch out for you at the Home Depot. Okay, Lowe's, one of them. Packager. Okay, but, well, I've had a few. So, and this was all when I was younger because, you know, I didn't have a place and I had a lot less to lose because I wouldn't want to get arrested now. Baby, sex offender. Right, on the list. But no, so one was like, so there were some abandoned projects near where I grew up at. So in one of those abandoned project homes. And it was kind of weird because I think it was like a squatter in the basement, like some homeless man in the basement. I know I heard somebody down there at some point after we were done and leaving. But Yeah, so that was creepy, and we could have died, but we didn't, so, yeah. And then the other was, like... So, it wasn't in a church, but it was, like... You know how buildings have, like, those little doors that, like, you have to go down some steps, and there's, like, a door on, like, the side of the buildings and stuff? On the outside? Yeah, so it was in one of those little... door side stairwell things at a church. In the Lord's house? It was outside the door. And the door was closed. He wasn't there. Straight into the fire, honey. Go! I mean, I'm already... Preparing for my hell vacation. No, you're not. Anyways. And I got my suntan lotion. This will be great. Bitch, suntan. All the happening gays. You're about to be melting. Okay. All right. Second question. What's the trashiest thing you've done sex-wise? Oh, the trashiest thing I've done sex-wise. I was very young. This is going to be nasty. I'm going to say it. I was very young. And I had a threesome with these two handsome guys. I should say their names. Wouldn't that be juicy? I would be drunk. And we were all you know doing the thing but one person they finished on my man meat and I rubbed that around like it was lube and tore down the bottom that was right there and flooded him like something crazy yeah a little twinkie action yeah it was a it was a nasty situation everyone was tore up okay so you went from like oh I only have sex at home to like extreme nasty for the second question I get nasty when I'm comfortable hello I get nasty when I'm comfortable So now mine is like nothing. Like I was like, again, when I was younger, like I invited some boy over and we did stuff and like I kind of faked it because it wasn't good. Yeah. And I was about to say I should say his name, but I can't remember it. So never mind. But it wasn't good. So he like left and then I called somebody else over like, like, like, Within the hour to make sure the job was done. Okay. Like I need this job done. Right. Let me call my main hitter. Yeah. Yeah. So it was a little trashy, but you know, things, things gotta get done. If you go to the store and you don't get what you need, you go, you can go to another store. So hello, you're going to return that item. Okay. And go ahead and get you a new one from another place. Exactly. from a quality establishment. Hello? No. Return that back to Dollar General. Go ahead and go to a department store or something. Macy's. Nordstrom. Okay, well, I already kind of answered the last one, but have you ever faked an orgasm? And yes, yes, I did. Yes, you did. You did. I did. Um, with this one guy, um, we were together or whatever. Well, we were dating. I'm so sorry. We were not together. We were dating. And, um, I don't know this one night I was just like over it, you know, I was tired and he wanted me to take him to pound town. And so I was like, all right, all right, all right. You know, I didn't say it like that. I was actually like into it, you know? And so I'm doing the dues and, um, I was just ready to go to sleep. I'm not even going to hold you. I just had a long ass day. So I just faked like I finished and had a condom, of course. And he was a little creamy. So it kind of like he couldn't really tell, you know. So I did the, you know, whatever. And that was it. he was like, oh, you didn't pull out, you know, and I was like, nah, nah, just, you know, that's an economy, it was bomb, you know, that's how it went to be. So, like, and now thinking back about it, like, I wonder if people would care, like, if you don't come, like, do you care if the other person doesn't? Um, actually, yeah, I do care, like, For me, I always want my partner to finish majority of the time because I feel like my job is not done. If they're adamant about, oh no, I'm good, I'm good, I'm good. I'm like, okay, cool. But then, are you good though? Because I want them to finish. And I think some people don't have to. They're just into the feeling of it. they're into like just pleasing the other person so I don't and I'm not that's probably not like a not a huge bunch of people but I do know some experiences I've had they're just like oh you know I just I just enjoy watching you do whatever whatever and then I'm good from that I've seen that people enjoy just the pleasure aspect yeah yeah and then they I guess go home and do whatever it is that they need to do okay just put on some pornhub shout and go crazy or just go home and go to sleep be like oh i did a good job because afterwards i'll be wanting like some ice cream or a sandwich or something and then yeah be hungry i'll be ready for a snack yes a whole snack a meal actually okay it's a lot of work do do it's a lot of work to do anything sexually no shade like alone and with somebody it's a lot Yeah, that's a lot of calories that you burn. Actually, I'm trying to figure out why I don't have abs yet. My forearm real strong. So on average, men burn about 101 calories during sex, while women burn roughly 69 calories. That's actually a lot. 100 calories or inactivity is kind of a lot. What is that? Maybe like 15 minutes on the treadmill if you're just walking. Yeah. Yeah, that's not bad. That's good. Yeah. Yeah. We encourage you guys go out, have sex. Yes. If you want them summer bodies, do it. Them hundred calories add up. Get on sniffies, jacked, grinder, bitch. Do it today. I cannot stand the name of sniffies, but we'll move on. I can't get down. It just sounds disgusting. Okay, so, of course, we're going to start with the basics. So, sexual health. Of course, we... Well, I won't say of course. Getting tested is still important. We have all of these different tools and things that... can protect us from getting tested every three to six months or when you're having symptoms is extremely important. And talking to your partner about sexual history and not in the way of like, oh, how many bodies you got or anything like that. There's more so when's the last time they got tested? Do they have a main partner? Whatever, whatever. Like just having that sort of like ground setting conversation. Yeah, and state your intention behind asking your partner when they got tested. And the only reason why I say that is because a lot of people find it offensive for you to come out and be like, when's the last time you got tested? Because in their mind, for some reason, they automatically think you're accusing them or, you know, basically accusing them of having anything. So, like, usually if you leave with a warm opening or something like that or, you know... Just be like, hey, when's the last time you got tested? I just want to make sure, you know, we're being safe, X, Y, and Z. That always works because it's good to know. You're like, you need to know. And it's not just about, because I know everybody, the one thing they think about is HIV when we're talking about getting tested. That's not the only thing that you have to worry about when it comes to sex. There's a bunch of other... Other STIs, STDs that you have to worry about. And a lot of things can be mistaken for each other. You think you have one thing, but you have something totally different. Syphilis is a big thing out here. You guys have to watch out for that. It will come at you from out of nowhere and you need to get tested and get treated immediately. And it's highly contagious, very spreadable, and super common. So things like that. you think you probably have, even with gonorrhea, discharge, bitch, that ain't pre-cum. Talking about something, oh, I'm just always horny. No, baby, go get a shot. It's different colors, if it's thick, if it burn when it come out, that's not pre-cum. It's definitely not pre-cum. I'm just hot like fire, bitch. No. That's T.I. Go get it checked out. And continuing with that, it's very important for you to get tests swabbed in all the areas that you're having sex. So if you're having oral sex, anal sex, or sex with your vagina or penis, you need to get urine samples, a throat swab, and a rectal swab. And if you don't feel empowered or safe at the places that you get tested because you don't want to tell them that you are having anal sex or whatever the case is, or oral sex, then find another provider. Because if you get tested, if you get your blood work drawn and you're only getting a urine sample, you won't know if you have gonorrhea, chlamydia in your throat or in your butt. So it's very important to get swabbed every time you get tested in all areas. Yes. And don't be afraid to talk to your provider, echoing What she said, because one, you want to be as comfortable as possible with your provider. For example, my doctor, I talk to her about every single thing. I'm an open book with her because one, she... And make sure your doctors are concerned about your health, first of all, when you're choosing your provider. Because mine is very concerned about... my health and making sure I'm good and, and making sure I'm tested every single time I go to for my physical, she makes sure I get everything. Like I'm talking about tubes of blood. You might as well go ahead and dig my grave up as much blood that they'd be taking from me. But, um, yeah, just make sure you're finding the right provider, make sure they care about you and your health and be open with them because that'll, I promise you in the long run, I know a lot of people are afraid to talk about their business, but you never know what, could be going on and you might need more than you think so yeah and pretending that don't exist it's not going to make it go away it's not it's definitely going to make it worse so please um if you've been thinking about it this may be your sign to go ahead and go and chat with your provider to give her all the details him or her all the details about your um your life your sex life Exactly. And if you don't feel comfortable talking with your sex partners about your history or their history or whatever the case is, STIs, then that might not be a person that you want to have sex with. And this is strictly for casual, pleasurable sex. I do know people have sex for work and things like that, so not that. But if you're having pleasurable sex and this is somebody that you're getting to know or whatever the case is, should feel empowered to talk about those types of things and if you can't then maybe that's not a person that you should have sex with but that's all up to you yep definitely all right so let's talk about some of the medical interventions that we have right now for hiv and sti so we have prep I'm pretty sure if you've not been hiding under a rock, you've heard of PrEP. So we have two types of PrEP now. We have oral PrEP and injectable PrEP. Oral PrEP is a pill you can take every day to prevent HIV. And injectable PrEP is a injectable or a shot that you can take, that you're given by a provider every two months to prevent HIV. And PrEP has about like 99 point, 99% effectiveness against HIV. So it's a great option for people who prioritize HIV prevention and don't necessarily always use condoms, don't want to use condoms, have slip-ups with condoms, worry about condoms breaking, whatever the case is. Because we know condoms aren't 100% protective against STIs anyway. So PrEP. I'm on injectable PrEP. I feel great. I get a shot every two months. It does hurt. It's a sting, but it's not really anything that's like too crazy. And I got on injectable prep just because I didn't like taking pills. And then I would be concerned like, oh, did I take my prep today? Did I forget? And then that whole thing, right? Yeah. pills might be good for some people because you may take other pills and you just add PrEP into it. So it's options for people that want to prioritize HIV prevention. So how is that? Did you experience any side effects with the injectable PrEP at the beginning? Does your body have to adjust to it a little bit? That's a good question. So So I definitely did have side effects with the oral prep because that's what I was on at first because injectable prep is maybe like a year or so old. So it's pretty new. But the side effects for oral prep could be like some stomach issues, maybe some diarrhea, you know, this nausea. um, not wanting to like, like not feeling hungry, um, things like that. Um, and you also have to monitor your, your bone, kidney and liver functions because any pill that you take, even if it's like a Tylenol, um, if you take it on a regular basis, it can affect all of those things. Yeah. As far as the injectable, um, it didn't, I didn't really have any issues. I had to get used to the pain, I guess. The main thing with injectable prep is that you have to be active. So if you get the shot and then you just go lay around for the next few days, that is going to get sore and really hurt. So you have to be active, walking around, go to the gym, do some workouts, and it'll kind of like... keep that muscle because it's getting injected into the muscle. So as long as you keep that muscle engaged, then it doesn't get as sore as it would be if you just kind of were sedentary. Got it. So it's kind of like getting your, you know, your, uh, like a, almost like a tennis shot where you get, um, where you get stiff if you're not moving the muscle and stuff like that. Okay. Wow. Okay. I thought about the injectable, but I never, um, Now that you said that, I might talk to my doctor about it and see about starting that because that's pretty good. And for those of you who don't know what PrEP stands for, it's pre-exposure prophylaxis, which basically means the use of medication to prevent disease infection before exposure to an infectious agent. So just for educational purposes for you guys that aren't sure what PrEP actually means and what pre-exposure prophylaxis means. Yes. Yes, yes, yes. And thank you for that. I think I talk about this so much that I just be assuming people know what prep is, so my bad. But yeah, prep is great. Also, if you're concerned about the cost, Most you can get prep for little to no cost. If you go to a clinic or community based organization, you can even get prep online and they have different programs that copay assistance programs where you can pay. little to nothing. And if you do have insurance, you probably will be paid nothing. Like I pay nothing for PrEP with my insurance. So there are ways to get it. You can visit your local health department. There's literally no barrier at this moment to stop someone who is really interested in PrEP from getting it. But yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So on the other end, there's PEP, which is post-exposure prophylaxis. So that is taking HIV meds if a person was in contact with HIV from like a needle stick, condom breaking, sexual assault, any of those types of things. So if a person thinks they've come into contact with HIV, then PEP is their option. And you can get PEP from your emergency room. You go to like a patient first or like a minute clinic, things like that, or your primary care provider. And basically they'll give you HIV medication. So it's the same medications as someone who is taking medications. And that's called ART or antiretroviral therapy. And they'll take that for a month. And then after that month, ideally, if the person is, got PEP within three days or 72 hours, which is the time frame that you have to begin it in, then ideally they would not have contracted HIV. So there's prep for before and then there's PEP after. If you're already on prep, you wouldn't have to take PEP. So we want to focus on prevention versus like reacting to the situation afterwards. Exactly. So be prepared with prep and with pep. If something happened, put a pep in your step, bitch. You got 72 hours. I just want to say a little joke. Okay, I might steal that. Put a pep in your step. Okay. Okay, to the clinic. And then there's the newest, well, yeah, kind of a newer medication is doxypep. So that's doxycycline, which is the medication used to treat gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis. So basically what doxy is, is if you have an encounter and you may have, be at risk for garnered chlamydia or syphilis, you would take Doxy right after, and you also have three days to take Doxy as well. And it's great because it prevents like, so now you have an option to kind of prevent all of the STIs, right? So you have PrEP and then you have PEP and then you have Doxy. So really there you have like a whole toolkit um, besides condoms, abstinence, all of the other things. Uh, but you have a whole toolkit of things that you can use. Like, so like pride is coming up. Um, there's, uh, the, the kids are like on spring break now, right? Like college kids. Yeah. They're going out and doing their things. Um, the summer break's coming up. So it's a lot of, I mean, the grannies out here, the granddads, they getting it too. Everybody getting it. Have to be warm.

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Freak Nick, Hot Girl, Hot Boy Summer, whatever. Memorial Weekend, baby. It's on. Yeah, so you have options to use. DoxyPEP for gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis. PEP for post-exposure to HIV and PrEP for pre-exposure. Exactly. Well, first of all, Doxy... Does not protect you against herpes or HPV. So just throwing it out there. But shout out to all you girls that will be going to Nelly's during Pride and you'll be cleaned out and ready to go. Make sure you are on your prep and make sure you put a pep in your step. If you had a drunk night and that condom was not available and you was getting it popping, go on down to the clinic. Thank you. We're here for you. Pop the puss and then pop the pill. Okay. Pop the, Ooh, pop the puss and pop the pill beach. Okay. Right on the dick. Then take the stick. Um, you know what? Oh, it's actually in reverse. Cause it's prep. Take the stick. Then right on it. Oh, lyricist. We need to write all these down and like put these on our, our show shirts. No, for real, Debbie. Yeah, no, we got to... Let's go ahead and put that. All right, so merch coming soon? Yep, merch coming soon for all you hot girls. All the dolls. All right. So we talked about some of the medical interventions. So now, of course, there's condoms, dental dams. So there's multiple kinds of condoms. So there's... Latex condoms, polyurethane condoms, and lambskin condoms, and they were called female condoms, but now they're called internal condoms. So, of course, the one that most people know about are the latex condoms. Some people may have an allergy to latex, so that's why polyurethane is a good option. And polyurethane, if you ever... felted on or on yourself or in you, they feel a lot less rough. And they kind of react to heat. So they adhere to surfaces. So it's a lot less friction. They work really well with lubes. And it's good for a sensation on the penis. I guess some people may feel like they can't stay hard because the condoms don't give enough sensation. So polyurethane condoms might be an option for them. As far as the lambskin, that's only for pregnancy prevention because it's made of actual skin and it has pores in it. So you don't want to use that if you're pregnant. concerned about STIs, but if you're just concerned about pregnancy, then you can use lambskin condoms. And finally, well, not finally, because there's two more, dental dams. So dental dams. So funniest thing, when I saw dental dams, because they're like this rectangular sort of piece of latex, I thought that it would taste like a fruit roll-up. Oh my God. It does not. It does not at all. Um, but if you've never used a dental dam, um, basically it's for like, um, oral sex on like a vagina or an asshole, or it's not for penises. Uh, but you place it over the area that you want to, um, perform oral sex on and is like basically a barrier. So you still kind of get that sensation of like a tongue and a mouth and the wetness, but you're not actually coming in contact with the fluids from that area. And then the last one, and then we'll talk about lube, is internal condoms. So that could be a good option for people who are having sex and the person who's doing the topping or the penetration doesn't like condoms or, or has issues staying direct with a condom or whatever the case is. So basically it looks like for lack of a better example, it looks like a big trash bag. So what you do is you take it out and you'll have like the big trash bag looking condom thing and then it has a ring in it so if you're having vaginal sex you flex the ring and um use it like you keep it in the condom you flex the ring Um, and then you push it into the vagina and then the ring kind of holds it open. Once it goes in and it kind of sits like where the cervix is and it just stays there. And it's also made of polyurethane. So that's how it, it, it adheres to the sides of the vagina and then it stays there. Um, and then once you're done, there's like lips on the outside of the condom. So you just grab those, you can pull it out, tie it up and throw it away. Um, If you're using it for anal sex, you want to take the ring out because the ring would really hurt if you kept it in there. So you would take the ring out, put two fingers into the condom, and then you use those fingers to kind of insert it into the anus. And it works the same way. I don't think a lot of people know about internal condoms, but they're available. They're not as widely, I guess, available, depending on where you are, as like regular condoms. But it's an option. If you've never tried it, just give it a try if you're interested in using condoms and you've had some issues in the past. And then lastly, lube is important. I do not care if you are... Well, if you're having... rectal sex. I don't care how wet that you think you are or they tell you that they are and they get juicy and moist and blah, blah, blah and all of that. Lube is needed, especially if you're using the condom, but even if you're not using the condom, the anus does not get wet enough to have penetrative sex, especially if it's vigorous, pound-in, pound-town kind of sex. it'll create some kind of friction and bleeding possibly. So you don't want that. You can use water-based or silicone lube. There's tons and tons of different lubes. You want to just try them out, see which ones work for you. I would recommend a Swiss Navy. I like Swiss Navy. I love Swiss Navy. There's another one. I cannot think of it. I also like gun oil as well. Yes, that's what it is. Gun oil. Yes. So, Swiss Navy and gun oil are my personal picks. And Carl's, apparently. And we are your sex masters. Yes. Oh, sex masters coming in. We've been at this for some time now. So those two work very well because you don't want, you know, like the friction and the rubbing. Also avoid putting other things into your butt or your vagina, like, you know, coconut oil and vegetable oil and Vaseline, lotion. baby oil gel, all of those types of things. They look like they would be slick enough, but they aren't. They aren't. Yeah. You don't want that in your butt. And it says for external use on the label for a reason. So don't do it. Literally. So stop using baby oil gel inside of your... I see it all the time and I'm like, you guys, please don't do this. This is not good. They be getting all lathered up I'm like, is it not painful? Because to me, I feel like something that's for external use only, usually when it comes in contact with that area, it's... It's irritating. Yeah, it's going to be a little painful. I don't know. Maybe they think the warm sensation is a good thing because I've accidentally had that enter the area and it was horrible. I was like, oh my. I wanted to rip my stuff open and drain it out yeah and and you know like the the anal walls are very thin um and sensitive so you don't want to just be putting any old fluid in there and for um people with vaginas i know that that could change like the ph balance and all of that type of stuff so it's a lot of reasons to just stick with water-based or silicone or and they also have hybrids of like both um which i also enjoy um because a little bit of both kind of like they both have their their pros and cons um silicone can like like stain the sheets. Water-based, you may have to use more because it dries up, et cetera. But when you use them both together or have a hybrid, I find that's the balance that's needed. Definitely. Yeah, same. I love the combination. Because you know what's so funny? What I found with water-based is that you have to keep applying that bad boy. Mm-hmm. bitch i first of all if we hunting i don't got time to keep grabbing reaching over to grab no squirt squirt okay um so i do enjoy the silicone base but i i like the mixture i think the mixture is just uh so good all right we're just gonna take a quick break be right back this episode is powered by vitamin energy your favorite pocket-sized energy shot with the boost of b12 and good vibes use my code i combat carl that's i c o m b a t c a r l for 20 off because let's be real sometimes after a long night we all need a little recharge especially after you doing it welcome back all right so next topic um so we want to talk about position so i guess this is Not for the cisgendered women. This is more so for the girls. Yes. For the... Yeah, I mean, well... I mean, it's... We could be a bottom if you're a girl. Yeah. I mean, for the peggers, they're tops, right? Yeah. So, I feel like the roles are universal.

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literally um so um so for just just some some some stuff for for tops just some things to for you to think about if you are topping someone um people don't like when you just kind of just go in all willy-nilly and you're kind of missing the hole and you just start out really rough like Like, you see that in porn because porn isn't real. Like, that's not a thing. Exactly. Please stop mocking them, child. You are not. What's that man's name? Fat Rabbit. Fat Rat. You will be bleeding. Fat Rabbit. You are not Fat Rabbit. You are not Shabazz. Whatever. Raheem Shabazz. You are not him either. He do be taking his time. No, no shade. But still. Y'all, that is all made up. Take your time. Okay, Mario, go ahead. Tell them about, tell them how to be a top champ. Yeah, because we not, we not, we not, like, 15, 16, no more. You don't need to, like, as soon as you get in there, like, it's just not, it's not, it's not good. Right. In there, do a little, little shimmy, little round around, like, whatever you gotta do to kind of, like, ease it in there and then take your time. Make sure there's enough loop. Make sure, you know, like, check in, like, I'm not saying, like, keep asking them questions. Oh, you okay? You okay? You don't want to do that. But just make sure it's still a pleasurable experience for both people and you're not, you know, just hurting them. Because you don't want to look back and it's, like, bloody or something like that. And then you're like, oh, my God. So, yeah, just take your time checking in. And, of course, like we just said, don't rely on porn because they will have you out here trying to do handstands and jump off a building. They will have you doing everything. And the bottoms in porn are next level. Please don't do this at home. Don't try it unless you are a true professional. Because let me tell you something. You think you can do a handstand while Fat Rabbit is drilling. All right. You're going to be hurting. You're going to be right at patient first. That's exactly where you're going to be. Because something went wrong. And now you all tore up. And speaking of bottoming. For the bottoms, it's just not about prep and all of that good stuff. It's not, oh, I know my body. I'm fine. You have to communicate with your partners. You have to be comfortable with them. Don't force yourself into something that you're not comfortable with. That'll end bad for both of you. And you got to trust the individual that you're going to do the do with. And the biggest thing is just the communication. Let them know that something doesn't feel right. Let the individual know that, you know, that you want them to take their time or you're not ready yet for certain activities, what you like and what you don't like. Don't assume that your partner knows what you like. That's a big thing. You have to tell them, hey, that's not my thing. For example, for me, people like to bite nipples. I don't like that. Don't bite mine. Don't do that. If you do it, I'm going to be like, no. I'll be like, no, you know, I'm good. Please don't do that. And I'm not saying no as in no means yes. I'm saying no as in I don't like it at all. And it's a little painful. Are you hungry? Like I got some snacks in the kitchen. But yeah, no, communicate with them. Tell them what you don't like, what you're not comfortable with so that you both can have a good time together. And prep yourself well. Take your time cleaning yourself out. Don't rush it. Because Lord knows you don't want to have an accident. And make sure it's all out of you. That first little two, three squirts is like, okay, cool, you know, I'm clean. There's still something in there, babe. It's going to come out the last minute when Fat Rabbit go all the way down up in there. And it's okay to say no. Like, I know that people be like really like they want to like really like be ready and like all that type of stuff but if you if you had 45 minutes and it's still like the chocolate factory in there then maybe it's just like you know what just do this tomorrow like you don't have to do it today and then you just kind of just ripping everything out of yourself and then you all like drained and tired and, and, you know, asshole all dry. Like, you know, you can just say no. Um, but I know that like some, if you are, if somebody is a bottom, they may feel like they don't have enough power or they feel like they need to like, please their, their partner, whatever the case is. But no, like you really can say, no, you can take your power and like not have to do all of that. Exactly. And, um, I know it was. But yeah, I'm going to talk to you after this is done. I thought it was my mom. I was responding to my mom. She just got back from an event. Okay. My bad. I was about to say something, but I lost full train of thought. So I'm just going to... I guess we can just move on to the next thing. Yeah. Um, the verse girlies. Ooh. So you got both of them. Okay. Damn. Double homicide. No, I'm a verse. I'm a verse one. I'm, I'm, I love being verse. I enjoy it a lot. And, um, it is true that you need to communicate what you're feeling that day. You do. Personally, I'm just not out here like, today I'm going to be a bottom. Today I'm going to be a top. Tomorrow I'm going to be a top. Me, it just depends on the person that I meet and what their position is, basically. I'm kind of very flexible when it comes to things like that. It doesn't always have to be like, I'm with another verse individual, which there are people like that, and your preference is your preference. But I will just say for me personally, and I don't even want to say but, but personally right but but um i just focus on um whoever i'm dealing with at the time and what their position is or their role is and i work with them because it doesn't matter to me i can be a full-time top full-time bottom full-time verse so yeah yeah yeah i mean it's different for everybody i mean i'll just In a nutshell, basically all we're saying is communicate and do what feels good to you. Within reason and within your comfort zone, try some new things. You may find something that you do. You may think that you are full bottom and then you try some stuff and you're like, oh, actually I'm blah, blah, blah. Like, so there's, there's like lots and lots of different things to try sexually toys, positions, positions, um, no, uh, all kinds of stuff. And we will in another show, we'll talk more about like kinks, fetishes and toys and all that type of stuff. So, but there's a lot of different things that you can try. Just be open, be willing, of course, with somebody that you trust. Um, Don't let people be tying you up, though. I will say that. Unless you really, really trust them. Please trust them. If you just met them, don't be getting handcuffed to the bed or something. Yeah, I'll say that. Just don't. And you know I really enjoy some BDSM, but yes, we will talk about that. Yeah. Yeah. And then, finally, for the sides. So, that's a new thing. So, if you don't know what a side is, they just, like, you know, they don't... Everything but penetration. That's how it was explained to me. Yeah. So, yeah. Penetration, that's the thing for everybody, which is fine. Like, penetration can be a lot. And the older that I get, I feel kind of the same. Like, sometimes I just want to do a little bit of stuff and then we bow, bow, bow, and then we go to bed. Like, I don't always need to or feel the need to, like, go into a whole penetration. It's like, that's a lot. It's a lot of effort, perfect time for both people. Like, it's a lot of stuff. So, you know, don't shame sides. And if you are a side, don't feel shame because people make it seem like you always have to, like, have penetration sex. Like, frotting, like, draw humping and oral sex and mutual masturbation, all of that stuff is great. It's a good time. It is, yeah. I enjoy it all. A good Friday session, bitch have me oiled up like a fucking slab of ribs, bitch. You don't even want to eat it. Or something, and you're like, oh, let me just have some lunch. Right. Yeah. And dessert. We'll be slapping skins, though. Yeah, I mean, and nobody want to, like, nobody... It isn't always given like, oh, I'm just going to do this and then go back and finish off my day, like getting fucked or fucking somebody. That's a lot. If you come back to work all disheveled, people will be looking like, what the fuck is wrong? Yeah, it is a lot. Are you all sweaty and your hair messy? Exactly. What's that spot? Okay. What is that spot? Oh, you got some dry skin around your mouth. No, that's just, yeah, actually. You know you're in HR, so like... So, that's all I have to say. Like, you know, it ain't always calling for all the bells and whistles. Sometimes a little side action is good. Yes. And, you know, being a side, I feel like it's more fun than all of the other roles, only because you have the freedom to do a lot of things without worry. Yeah. So sides, please feel empowered. Like you, you are holding it down. You are really holding it down. You are calling the shots and you are figuring out ways to find pleasure, um, outside of the, the norm because for majority of us, pain is pleasure. But for you, bitch, pleasure is pleasure. Period. Oh, and I want to go back though. Like for tops, um, we, we spent some time talking about bottoms and, and like cleanliness and stuff. Tops, um, Well, change your underwear and bring a wet nap if you're a little sweaty. Maybe you got some foreskin. Pull it back. Dab it. Take a shower. All of those things. If you pee, maybe dab the tip so it's not just pee in your underwear. All of that stuff. Yeah, like really... please take care of yourself because for the high blood pressure girlies we are not trying to have any extra salt so I just oh no not a pork rind bacon mints not the skins child yes like clean yourself up like mario said please like all you have to do is just carry some wet wipes with you like we understand a lot of people enjoy like the fresh man scent and this and that but it's a difference between having that normal scent and you being fucking yes you being you being funky like you stink like it's not even that's not good you smell bad like i don't understand how can i tell you this nicely baby go wash Go ahead. You know what? Let's go get in the shower. I'm going to scrub you. Yeah, I'm going to scrub you down. They'll be like, why are you scrubbing so hard? I just want to be sure. You know, this is foreplay for me. Right, okay. You know what? It was dead. Right, that's dead skin. That's dead skin. This is an exfoliating. okay experience bitch yes you gonna feel brand new after this smooth as a baby's ass all right oh my god i'm hollering yeah so i mean you know communicate wash up um Say what you mean, mean what you say, and do what you like. And don't let other people tell you what you should or shouldn't be doing. Exactly. Be comfortable with yourself. Top, bottom, verse, or side. Know your role. And shut your motherfucking mouth. I was about to say it. All right. So to wrap up, Carl is going to read... Or do you want me to read it? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Cause you, you, you got it. You know it. Okay. So one of our listener professions, so it's very short. Um, but, uh, if you have a confession, I don't know the email off the top of my head, but Carl will say it. Yes. So if you have a confession, please, please send us an email at the recap underscore HQ at gmail.com. So we can, excuse me. I'm going to, I'm going to do that over. Cause that was wrong. Um, Yes, if you do have a confession that you want to share, please make sure you email us at therecaphq at gmail.com and give us all the juicy details. Because we want to know, so we can laugh at it. We're not going to give you advice, bitch. We're just going to laugh, so enjoy. Okay, so, and it's kind of short, but I'm attracted to my wife's friend. She's not what most would call beautiful. Shade. She has nice... Shady. I often fantasize about her. Mostly oral, but I will fuck her too. My wife told me that her friend loves sex. Okay, so... Okay. Okay. Now... I have thoughts. I have several thoughts, and I don't want to get myself in trouble. Listen... I think we've all started talking to somebody and then seeing their friend and was like, oh, did I pick the wrong one? Right. I'm second-guessing myself. Like, wait a minute. Because the friend is kind of... Wait a minute. let me just get a piece no but yes it has happened though like i've i've had that situation before where i was with my boo whatever and then they introduced me to one of their friends and i was like oh hey um my name is my name is carl yeah yeah that's what's your name what's your instagram i mean in a in a I've had trashy times where, like, after we broke up. You spent the block, bitch. You were like, hey. Guess what? You'll never believe it. Oh, my God. I need emotional support. All right. We need to talk. Can you just come over, child? You got the lights dimmed, some R&B playing. You know, I'll pour some wine because, you know. It's just best to talk this way. Just come sit next to me. On the bed? Yeah. I think it's very honest. I wonder if he tells the wife and I wonder why the wife told him or whoever the person is. I don't know if they're him or not. I'm assuming that their friend loves sex. That's like an odd thing to say. I don't think I talk about my friend's sex whatever with my partner. you know it could be she like sometimes she probably could have vented and he's taking it as that what it is like she loves sex a lot because his wife was probably like yeah she's always messing around or talking to these guys or whatever because you know this bitch really loves sex and he probably is like ooh she loves sex too yeah I could see that um And then the part where he says she's not what most would call beautiful, which was that was an interesting statement. That was very rude. I think that's really disgusting because like what most call beautiful. What do you mean by that? And then you immediately go to she has nice tits. Excuse me. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, and I guess. You know, there's like that stereotype that guys kind of like, like, like if you had a fat ass or big titties or whatever, they're like, it don't even matter. I mean, I've had observation. So, you know, everybody's, you know, just differently attracted. I'm glad you said that because what I say is there are some ugly people out here and I get it. It's okay. Everybody's attracted to somebody. And I said this before in a previous episode, the ugly ones. I forgot what that question was you asked me, but yeah, take you to pound town. And that's probably what he thinking. Like she's going to take him to, um, Vagina Heaven or something. I can't think of what to say, but it's going to be a thing. I wonder if he's ever going to act on it, if the friend is interested, or is she going to get creeped out? I don't know. It's a lot there, but we both kind of agree. We've been attracted to partners, friends, or whatever in the past. I don't think it's too juicy just depends on what you do with it yeah I mean he's often fantasizing about her so we're treading down a dangerous lane here with him thinking about her a lot because often to me means you're really thinking about her like and when the wife brings her up you're excited about it and if they're having gatherings and she's there you might stare a little bit too long and then it'll probably become a problem. But that's a whole nother thing to unpack. But, you know, sir, you nasty. Calm down. Get your hormones in order just a little bit before you do something reckless. Yeah. Yeah. So, you know, don't try to, like, cheat on your wife with her friend or end up on a Jerry Springer situation or anything like that. Exactly. Yeah. Yep, yep. And... uh you may not want your wife to find out about this so yes so for divorce so john from michigan thank you so much for writing in um hopefully she doesn't hear this because i just said your name and your location oh no well i mean i hope you wouldn't use a fake name exactly i hope i hope you did john from michigan I hope you... I'm going to say another one, John. Johnny Johnson. Johnny Johnson. Ooh, I know that thing is banging, too. A name like Johnny Johnson, that's a porn name. I think it is, actually. Like, when it was, like, 80s porns with, like, the little saxophone music would come on. Okay. The girl be walking in the room. Got that fresh TCB No Loud Relaxin' show.

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Or a bush. You know, it was hairy back in the day. Yeah. Yes. Yes. Hairy and sweaty. It was picking up the coochie here. But whatever you like. Yeah. I mean, whatever you enjoy. Yeah. Okay, so we talked about a lot of stuff. I think we need to give the people a break and let them kind of absorb some of this stuff. But we will come back with a part two where we talk more about sexy confessions, people having sex with their teachers and stuff. That's a preview for that. Yes, and they are adults. By the way, just so y'all know. Like, college. Yes. Because I know exactly what y'all about to say. No, child. College. 18 plus. Thank you. Hello. But I hope everybody got something out of today. Have you learned something new or maybe this pushed you to think about getting on prep or getting a supply of doxy for your adventures? Or if it maybe helped you become more comfortable with whatever position that you enjoy in the sexual acts that come with that position. Hopefully you got something from what we've talked about. Yes, hopefully we educated you guys with this wealth of knowledge we have. And as always, we love you guys. Mario, you're good at the ending, so you go ahead and say it. Well, from the sex masters. We want you all to pop your pussies responsibly. Please. Until we see you again. And with that said, take care of yourselves, take care of each other, and we out. Bye, you guys. Be safe. Take that prep. If not, put a pep in your step down to the clinic.